Tuesday, January 22, 2013

OH. MY. GOD. This might be what pushes her over...

So- this might be it.  Mom heard back from her MRI.  She has a torn tendon on her hip and is being referred to an orthopedic surgeon at the end of February.

She has been walking with a cane since July, has had two rounds of PT, and she blames the one physical therapist for the tear.  She has extreme osteoporosis and osteopenia.   I am not sure she yet understands what this means.

  1. Likelihood of surgery
  2. Necessity of going to a rehab since she lives alone and the house is unlivable
  3. Needing to be able to navigate the house in a walker, or similar
She has a couple of goat paths through the hoard that are maybe 12 inches across.  THERE. IS. NO. WAY.  We won't get into the mold, the dust, and the crud.

I am not going home.  Whatever happens with this will be what has to happen.  She will have to figure out the cats, etc.  If she comes to the attention of Adult Protective Services, so be it.


  1. I completely stand behind you. She is toxic and you can NOT win. Nothing you do will be acceptable to her. You have to take care of yourself. Let APS take this one. You are right though. This just might send her over the edge. Stay strong.

  2. I completely agree with Lisa. This might be the tipping point. Do not go home. Let what needs to happen, happen.

  3. Thank you Lisa and Nelly. Your support means so much! Her appointment is some time in February, but she is being fey and will not disclose what doctor or what day. Everything is such a power and control issue. That is okay by me... DON'T TELL ME.

    Ahhh. Choices=Consequences... This should be interesting:-(

  4. Couldn't agree more. She clearly needs proper help and would never be able to properly appreciate what it would cost you. Stay strong!